Domestic violence is not a one-off act - once it happens, it is bound to happen again. However, a large number of people not only do not talk about the problem, but somewhere even justify it.
If, for example, in a relationship, the husband feels empowered as head of the family to resolve a conflict through violence against the wife or children, this could lead to the break-up of the family or severe consequences for one of the members.
Regardless of the reasons that lead to violence in the family, be it physical or mental, the fact is that the abusers themselves have serious personality conflicts and have been victims of violence. Such violence occurs when one person in a relationship tries to control and dominate the other. Control begins with psychological and emotional abuse and ends with physical abuse.
The reasons for domestic violence can be of any nature - jealousy, poverty, unemployment, alcohol addiction, drug addiction, mental illness.
Very often, victims of domestic violence try to deny or cover up its existence.
In case you notice any of the following signs in a child, please be careful:
In the presence of physical abuse, bruising and contusions are observed for which the victim has no adequate explanation. These may be bruises under the eyes, a split lip, purple scars on the neck, bruises on the arms and legs. Wearing long-sleeved clothes, scarves and generally unsuitable clothing for the season can also signal violence, as can wearing heavy make-up and sunglasses at inappropriate times.
In the presence of psychological and emotional abuse, the child victim's behaviour changes by becoming demotivated by habitual things he or she used to enjoy, being late for or cancelling appointments, showing a lack of privacy, anxiety, crying outbursts, sadness, helplessness, despair and guilt.
In such a state of helplessness and fear, the victim may refuse any kind of help from friends, relatives, loved ones or professionals.
An important characteristic of domestic violence is the attribution of guilt for what is happening - victims tend to blame only themselves, even in some cases justifying the abuser.
If this topic raises questions in you, you recognize yourself or someone you know, feel free to contact the NATIONAL TELEPHONE LINE FOR CHILDREN by dialing 116 111. Don't delay! We will listen and support you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!